Mind Control for Dummies!
3/7/15
When we don't know we often make decisions that appear ludicrous to others who do know, or at the very least hold onto hope rooted somewhere we don’t see. This happens for many reasons. Of these there all can be reduced into one reason: ignorance. Of course this boils down to a few different kinds or reasons why. And they are: innocence, intentional, and emotional.
Innocent ignorance can be corrected by seeking facts and truth. Intentional can be corrected by choosing to seek the truth or facts. But emotional is more often than not the problem; and one which leads to intentional ignorance and unfortunate innocent ignorance as well. And it is for that reason why so many of us suffer. We simply don’t know how to control them, our emotions.
For a long time I’ve held onto the belief that there is almost always more than one path to a piece of wisdom. Ever since I realized that my parents could be wrong I knew that my epiphany had to be true, even though I could not explain it is so many words; but now I can.
We often find ourselves easily seduced by extreme emotions. We allow ourselves to fall prey to these absences of logical thought. This is not to suggest that there is anything wrong with emotions. It is in fact what makes us who we are in direct correlation to our abilities to control them with logic.
And sometimes, even with general emotions, we may find ourselves not remembering a good solution to a problem we’ve previously considered. We often find ourselves in positions of despair because we’ve quite forgotten the answers so eloquently studied beforehand giving our actions the appearance of lunacy and stupidity to others. This happens to everyone. While there are probably many ways to help fix this problem, one springs to mind that many will condemn.
Before you go off on someone else for failing at something, consider their position. This isn’t about checking your freedom of speech or expression. This is about remembering that other people are subjected to emotions just the same as everyone else; and each of us has learned to control our emotions to varying degrees. This is about critical thinking and exercising your mind, without learning textbook facts the way so many of us has been taught is the essence of learning and of growth.
And yet, through that and other methods many of us fin security in our minds despite the disregard of the status quo of educational reform beneath most government to teach real critical thinking. However, just because you are secure in your mind, you believe that others should be doing the same, and that everyone should be held absolutely in complete contempt of their words and actions doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be held in contempt for yours.
What the does that even mean?
It means, if you are going to hold others responsible for things they cannot control, then you had best be willing to own up to the things that you can control; i.e., your demeaning attitude towards others. It doesn’t matter if this is in the realm of politics, simple interactions on the street with people passing by, or an exchange with someone in line at the grocery store. What comes out of your mouth and is displayed by your actions should take into consideration those around you.
You don’t have to check every word and action you make. It is absolutely the responsibility of everyone to engage and behave around others in a manner that is relatively polite. Yet, there has to be some standard somewhere and somehow. Everyone has different experiences and trouble coping with a variety of things for at least the same number of reasons.
This isn’t about demanding compliance. This is about real education. This is about education to empower you and me to affect positive changes in our world by being the examples for others.
Certainly it’s very easy to curse and use aggressive language. I’m guilty of it in my daily conversations and it is becoming more common place on the airwaves and radio waves and in many general populations. But I urge you to consider something else.
Do not think of the foul language. Think of what could be replacing the foul language. What ideas are you not conveying in place of that obscenity?
And that right there is the problem. By removing those obscenities from your vocabulary when conveying ideas to others completely changes the willingness of many to engage your subject matter. It makes your idea more precise and clear. It also makes your idea less threatening. There is a nasty, albeit justly associated, stigma attached to obscenities.
The use of obscenities in most cultures dictates an act of aggression, typically violence. It seems most people use obscenities fueled with frustration, an emotion that is much easier to convert into violent anger. By exchanging the obscenities in your vocabulary to other words, you are effectively reducing the knee-jerk emotional responses by substituting logic in place of emotion. That translates into direct control over your emotions.
That is incredibly important when dealing with other people AND YOURSELF!
So what brought on this particular little note? I noticed this sentiment in my own actions recently. I realized that when I actively sought to prevent my usage of obscenities that my emotions were easier to control. In other words, my use of obscenities fueled my negative emotional outbursts.
I recognized this in debates I hold with others. Those who tend to use more obscenities hold the attention of the topic at hand with less success. It’s not always that way, but it appears to be so with my experiences. Of course the flip side of that argument is that those who use aggressive language, obscenities, often do so-whether they realize it or not-as a distraction technique.
That is the way most obscenities are utilized. And when brought into the realm of debate, confrontation, or challenging of authority or what is right are always used to intimidate. It doesn’t matter if that’s the language that individual typically uses. The fact of the matter is that the overall usage of such language is for aggressive purposes AND to enhance emotional conveyance.
That is why in discussions with others over differences that such language should be avoided. It’s about ensuring the translation of the idea completely, wholly, and without fail.
It’s about controlling your mind so that the next time you are in a situation where emotions are running high, you might be able to solve the problem yourself with greater success. It’s not about, is never about, preventing you from speaking your mind. It’s always about helping your control your own mind so you can use it to its fullest capacity.
But don’t think for a moment that I’m perfect. I’m just as guilty as anyone else for the usage of obscenities. I made a post just a few days ago where I cursed fellow liberty movement leaders for their support of working within the system after working on my annual tax returns. Such language can be useful in expressing emotions but the moment I turned off those words and sought more precise words my head began to clear up. I was able to think faster and more accurately.
And that’s what it’s all about!
-JLD
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